There are some misconceptions of multiples that I figured I would touch on today: 1. Their personalities are similar. This could be farther from the truth. Even identical siblings have their own unique personality, and, like with any child, these personalities change as they grow. Criton is my fearless dare devil and gets into everything. His curiosity level is astounding. He is by far my messiest eater. It is all over him, his chair, and the floor... thank God some makes it in too...lol. Haley, at the moment, loves to follow Criton into trouble. On the other hand though she loves to sit and be held quietly, smiles and laughs while she eats and I sing to them, and wants recognition for her accomplishments. Her eating habits are in between Caitlin and Criton. She doesn't make near the mess he does but comes no where close to the cleanliness of Caitlin. Caitlin is very independent. She also has gets very upset when someone comes and takes what she is playing with. She is very cautious in almost everything she does including walking (very methodical). Her eating habits are the same way. She takes her time and hardly ever has anything in her bib, chair, or floor. I think she might be a neat freak like her Dad...lol. 2. People with Multiples have Money. Think hard about that statement. Do you have any idea what it costs to raise one child, no less more then one, all in the same stage, needing all the same kinds of things? Even if they had money before, chances are they feel the pinch. Also, even if you went through infertility treatments, doesn't mean you have money. Some states mandate that employers off infertility insurance in their policies. Some people save for years. Some people cash out their 401ks. And then some people just acquire them as a natural surprise. 3. IVF produces more Higher Order Multiples. Although there is a chance of multiples with IVF the more common infertility treatment that produces triplets and more is IUI. The same type of meds are used to produce multiple eggs but then at ovulation sperm is injected into the woman. Thus any or all of the multiple eggs can be fertilized and grow into a baby. IVF is more controlled and limited as far as how many embryos can be put back when and at what stage. I know what some of you are thinking "What about octomom?" First off that whole situation is messed up and obviously the doctor was way in the wrong, but the majority of infertility doctors adhere to strict policies where this is concerned. 3. Moms of Multiple are schedule Nazis. Unfortunately schedules are a necessity to being able to get everything done, make sure everyone is eating the amount they need to, and to keep the sanity. Really I think the kids actually like it. They know exactly what to expect and they are more at ease. If our schedule gets too messed up they flip out. My children are creatures of habit and they like it that way. I like to consider it a routine because there is a little flexibility in there when they need it and as they grow. 4. Your marriage goes down the drain after having multiples. Having multiples is hard, especially the first 6-8 months. Sleep deprivation really hits hard. It can make you snappy, irritable, you stop really listening to what your partner is saying, it is all about survival at that point. Then when that part is over, it takes awhile to even feel recovered from that. Yes there is a high divorce rate for people with multiples, but our divorce rate in general is high. I think people hold resentments from the first part and they just keep festering up. Perhaps they stop really listening and talking to each other. Michael and I had the type of relationship that made people sick. Almost perfect. The first 3 months after the kids arrived we snapped at each other a lot, but we also talked about it. We knew it was severe lack of sleep. So we kept telling each other all the time that we loved each other and together, we could get through anything. There are still rough moments here and there but as the kids grow, it settles. To be continued...