Darkest Before the Dawn: Potty Training Update
So we are going into week 4. The past three days (not including today) have been really bad. Even Haley, who rarely has an accident ever, was having all accidents and no successes. Before that Haley was extremely consistent but Criton and Caitlin mainly had accidents with a few successes. Even though all of them were making small progress everyday, such as going longer between needing to potty (usually 1.5-2 hours in-between), trying to get to the potty, letting me know if they had an accident and so on.
Now a lot parents that I have seen posting on the various potty training boards talk about how frustrated they are, tired of cleaning up messes and so on. Surprisingly, I’m not frustrated with it, I don’t mind cleaning the messes (with triplets there is always some mess involved lol), my biggest worry, especially yesterday, is that I am messing this all up. Will they just think that going in their underwear is ok? How do you untrain that? Are they getting frustrated or bored with it? I had all these questions and NO answers. Most of the people I talked to trained their kids when they were older (2.5-3 years old) which is a different developmental stage then mine. I scoured the internet for some direction, but didn’t find anything. The closest thing I found were some moms of 2 1/2 year olds saying they took a two week break, went back to diapers, and then when they tried again it clicked. I tried talking to Michael about all this and get his opinion. After two days with zero successes I was feeling like the biggest potty training failure and scared that I had completely ruined any chance of them getting this without a lot anxiety on their part. Dramatic, yes I know, but true none the less. Anyway, Michael had no opinions or suggestions. He doesn’t deal with it much since he works all day and I’m a SAHM. He tried to be supportive and I love him for it, but I wanted guidance, not support. So next I call the pediatrician who started this whole idea of starting potty training now. I went over everything with the nurse and she took it to the pediatrician. Now I am not too thrilled with this pediatrician and have gotten bad information from him before on anther issue but thought it was worth a shot to see what he would suggest. An hour later: “At this age it would be appropriate to keep them in diapers and put them on the potty a couple of times a day, like when they first get up from a nap or right before bathtime.” This is the same guy who two months ago told me that I should already be potty training them. Really?!?! I was ready to cry. I didn’t have a problem going the way we have been as long as it wasn’t a bad thing to do (with as many accidents as they were having in their underwear). I also didn’t have a problem with going back to diapers and taking a break if that is what they needed. Again, tons of questions, no answers, and no one to turn to. Then it happened… Haley came to me wanting to go potty. So I took her, she peed, and then went back to playing. About 20 mins later Caitlin came up wanting to potty. So we put her on the potty and she went! Caitlin, my baby who hasn’t gone in the potty for a week, peed in the potty with no accident beforehand. Haley went again a little while later, as did Caitlin. Then Criton came wanting to use the potty! Everyone has been peeing in the potty since about 9am with no accidents since! To say I was floored would be an understatement. Do I think the trend will continue all day? Probably not. I am sure someone will have an accident but I hope we have more coming to go on the potty. No matter what though, my children answered my question. They are ready, they are getting the hang of this, they do understand what we have been talking about. I can’t explain what happened the past couple of days, but I guess it doesn’t really matter. We will keep going just the way we are. There is a light there 🙂 Potty Training Tip: If they backslide… don’t freak out. If you feel like all you have are accidents and worry that they will adopt potting in their pants like they were a diaper….don’t. They will get it. You can do this. Just keep going. Potty Training Tips #2: If juice causes diarrhea or stomach upsets do not give while potty training…lol