Toilet Training: Set backs?
Alright, so this past weekend was Labor Day and we go to Michael’s (my husband) family cabin at the lake for holidays. I was nervous about going because we have been working so hard on potty training this week and they were starting to do so well. I knew that being at the lake with everyone and all the distractions that it might set us back a little and I was worried about it. So we decided to just go for two days. I was right in my assumption. It was utter chaos. It seemed all our hard work was being flushed down the toilet. They were so distracted with everything going on around them that it was just one accident after another.
It didn’t help that I felt that no one understood why I was getting a little upset about it. So finally I just said enough and put them in diapers on the second day so they could just relax (since it didn’t seem to matter anyway). I hated that decision and in my mind I was thinking “When we get home it will be starting all over again like day 1.” Tip #1 of the day: Just because you have set back like this, don’t assume the worst… I was wrong. We got up this morning and jumped right into it again. The first hour was bad. Caitlin and Criton had accidents, no one was coming to me when they needed to go or giving their signs. I truly thought we were back at the beginning, but then something miraculous happened. Criton started coming up to me and the potty whining. He was actually making a move to let me know he had to pee before he did! I was shocked and tried not to get too excited since it was the first time it happened. He continued on this trend though and didn’t have any accidents for the rest of the morning! He did have a poopy accident right before nap time and was really upset about it but I told him accidents happen, cleaned him up, and got ready for nap time. Caitlin has backslided quite a bit but we did get one good success out of her before nap time and she seemed pleased with herself, so I was happy. I think it might take a little time for her to find her groove again. Haley did great. She did get a few drops in her underwear but stopped quickly and made it to the potty and finished. I am very proud of all of them and their progress. I probably shouldn’t have stressed about going into the diapers for a day but it’s hard when they have come so far in the past week, some going days without any accidents, and then to see it completely fly out the window. I didn’t want to have to start all over again. I know those who have toilet trained before can understand this, especially those who have trained three at once. Potty Training Tip #2: If you can avoid any type of vacation/ trip until they have a good grasp on potty training, do it. Don’t put yourself or them through that kind of stress. It may be different (or even easier) to do something like that with a singleton, but I think you may run into the same issues. No matter what happens though, just try to go with it. There will be set backs, there will be moments where you feel like you are back at square one, but they will get there eventually. I tell myself that all the time, and every day there is improvement. Everyday we are getting closer and closer.